Never before in the history of the world have we had as much instant access to what everyone else is doing. Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and other social media outlets have opened up a whole new world to us. With the instant access to other people’s social lives, there’s a huge temptation to compare ourselves unfavorably to everyone else.
To Compare Is a Snare
You can do it with virtually anything: the way you organize your home, the meals you cook, your exercise routine (or lack thereof!), what time you get up in the morning, what type of bread you eat (if you do…), how you educate your children (homeschool, private school, public school, co-ops, or something else…), etc. The options to compare are endless these days.
Here’s the problem: Endless comparison can leave you feeling discouraged, overwhelmed, and defeated. It can all take place in the first few seconds of the day, just by checking Facebook on your iPhone before you roll out of bed and your feet hit the floor in the morning.
I’ve written previously about my own struggles with comparison as an identical twin. I am very familiar with this temptation, and I think addressing this issue is something we 30 Somethings need to hear.
One of my readers wrote me the following:
I think the things most of my 30 something year old friends struggle with is STILL comparison! Learning to rest in who God made us to be and what capacity we have as individuals compared to what we THINK we should be doing with our lives and what OTHER people have a capacity for is a constant struggle!
The guys can feel discouraged that they aren’t farther along in their sanctification process – they thought they would have “arrived” at a higher place of holiness than they are – and the women seem to think everyone else is farming their own organic food while homeschooling their perfectly obedient child… while they are just dishing up Kraft mac & cheese…
I agree that comparison is a strong temptation in your 30s. The good news is that there’s hope for all of us!
Learn From Others, But Be Yourself
It’s one thing to hear what someone else is doing and take helpful advice to serve our families, to tweak it and make it our own. It’s another thing to look so much at what others are doing that you forget what God has called you, specifically, to do.
The truth is that there is no other individual on planet earth that is exactly like you. And God has a unique calling for you.
I love the way the greeting is made at the church we attend currently. Every week they say, “You can be yourself here; you can be a sinner here, because, what of it, Christ died for sinners.” What 30 Somethings need to hear is the same thing Peter needed to hear when he was comparing himself with the Apostle John: “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me!” (John 21:21-22).
Follow Jesus. It makes life so much more simple. He has a different calling for you than he does for your brother, your neighbor, your best friend. What’s important is that you stop unfavorably comparing yourself to others. Be yourself. Be who God has called you to be, and follow Jesus. That will make our 30 Something lives so much more enjoyable and God-honoring, and in-the-end, it will serve everyone better than trying to be someone else.
You can read the other posts in this 30 Something Series by clicking here.