Christmas and Conflict

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I’ve spoken with a number of friends who have experienced an increased level of conflict with their spouses and families over the Christmas holidays.

Some are surprised and others discouraged by the presence of bickering in what is supposed to be a time of joy.

More Time Together

There is no question that more time together over the holidays is a huge blessing! It also provides increased opportunities for family members to sin against each other.

Little things like setting up the Christmas tree, putting out the decorations, and simply discussing holiday plans can leave us all meandering our way through mis-matched expectations. Before we know it, conflict springs up, and with the conflict we can easily sin against each other.

The good news is that God is a Redeemer, and he can use even our sinful moments of failure to remind us of the joy of Christmas.

Really? Yes!

This Is Why Jesus came

God is not surprised by our sin. We may be alarmed at times by what can come out of our hearts in unguarded moments, but He is never surprised.

Our impatience, anger, unkindness, and pride has never caught Him off guard. In fact, this is exactly why we have a Christmas holiday to celebrate. Our sin is why God sent His Son.

Christmas reminds us of the truths that we are in desperate need of a Savior and that the Savior has come! Jesus came to save us from our sins.

The next time we have a conflict with a family member and blow-it in our impatience, anger, unkindness, rudeness, or any other manner, we don’t have to despair. We can take it as an opportunity to be reminded afresh of the good news of Christmas:

“She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins” (Matthew 1:21).

There is a Savior, and there is enough grace, mercy, and hope for each of us in Him!

No more let sins and sorrows grow,
Nor thorns infest the ground;
He comes to make His blessings flow
Far as the curse is found,
Far as the curse is found,
Far as, far as, the curse is found.

This Christmas, let’s turn our moments of failure into moments of worship and once-again embrace the grace of God in our Savior, Jesus Christ.

I'm a husband, father of four, healthcare IT recruiter, pastor and writer. I live in the greater Nashville, TN area where I serve as an elder with Redeeming Grace Church (